August 2007


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Family courts often do not consider the history of violence between the parents in making custody and visitation decisions. . . . Psychological evaluators not trained in domestic violence may contribute to this process by ignoring or minimizing the violence and by giving inappropriate pathological labels to women’s responses to chronic victimization. Terms such as “parental alienation” may be used to blame the women for the children’s reasonable fear of or anger toward their violent father. [pg 100] 1996 Report of the American Psychological Association Presidential Task Force on Violence and the Family
http://www.stopfamilyviolence.org/ocean/host.php?folder=63&page=442
 

Richard A. Gardner, M.D., former clinical professor of child psychiatry at the College of Physicians and Surgeons at Columbia University , is the progenator of Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS). PAS is a highly controversial theory that has not officially been recognized as a syndrome or a diagnosis.

 The theory of PAS is as follows: The parental alienation syndrome (PAS) is a disorder that arises primarily in the context of child custody disputes. Its primary manifestation is the child’s campaign of denigration against a parent, a campaign that has no justification. It results from the combination of a programming (brainwashing) parent’s indoctrinations and the child’s own contributions to the vilification of the target parent . . .  

 

Interesting that PAS does not explain other types of scenarios involving abuse allegations–such as abuse allegations made against an individual who is not family or an allegations made before the dissolution of a relationship. Nor does PAS explain why a child would “contribute” to the “vilification of the target parent“. Similar questions and a lack of scientific credibility has cause criticism for PAS, some would call it “junk science”. Gardner has admitted that theory is not based on science but on observation and work as an “expert” witness. An “expert” witness is called to testify for one side, and usually frames an argument in one theory or point of view. Gardner has been highly sought after in his career as an “expert witness” and was paid hundreds of dollars an hour for testimony, Often, Gardner did not meet the people he testified against, which is not considered unethical.

 

 

The so-called treatment for PAS involves taking the child from the parent accused of alienation (usually the mother) and reuniting the child to the other parent. In many cases, a child is completely removed from one parent and custody is given to the other. Usually parenting classes or therapy is not part of treatment; and is difficult to obtain. Then again, it is very difficult to “treat” a syndrome which really does not exist! Indeed, a parent seeking therapeutic help may be accused of PAS and the “evidence” may be that they are creating barriers by involving therapists. Or a therapist that supports the child may be accused of bias. Reported by the Pittsburgh Post Gazette:

 

“…And in a report filed in the Grieco case, Gardner noted that ‘PAS mothers have a way of finding therapists, almost invariably women, who reflexively join them in their campaign of denigration of the father … (and) in some cases even join the mother’s paranoid delusional system.’

In some cases in which ‘fanatic’ mothers want to limit or cut off visits to the father, he wrote, ‘I believe that the most important element in these children’s therapy is immediate transfer by the court to the home of the so-called hated parent.’” http://www.post-gazette.com/custody/partthree.asp

Scenes like these, while seeming more fit for ”The Twilight Zone”  are happening in courtrooms across America today based soley on the allegation of Parental Alienation Syndrome. In some instances, children have been placed with abusers only to run away from home and even, commit suicide.

Since Gardner came forward with his theory of PAS in the 1985, PAS has been used to counter abuse allegations–and to discredit the testimony of victims, including mothers, children, therapists and other witnesses (especially those connected to the mother in any way). PAS allegations may also be used to win sole custody of children or to wage lengthy legal battles as a form of harassment/intimidation against the other parent.

Further, “Mothers who choose to divorce a husband when sexual abuse is disclosed often lose much and pay a high price for protecting their children. The mother may lose her source of financial support. She may be threatened with violence if she supports her child and takes legal action against the offender. If the man has been violent with the mother, she may have a very difficult time doing what she needs to do to protect her child. If she is met by a high-powered legal team hired by her child’s offender, and she has no resources to fight, she may give up. She may feel a divided loyalty between her child and the offender. If she has been battered herself, she is likely to be isolated from social support and may have a hard time getting through the court appearances and other ordeals involved in protecting her child. She may be tempted at every juncture to abandon the protection of her child and give in to the offender. If such a mother is not supported by the legal and social services systems, the risk is great that she will capitulate and abandon her children to the offender.” (Merrilyn McDonald)

Often, individuals who are not qualified to make a psychological assessment of the mother or the child are the ones to make the allegation of PAS, and often without any supporting evidence or psychological examination. The reason why virtually anyone can be credible to “diagnose” PAS is because anything the mother says or does is automatically suspect, and again–there are no guidelines within the framework of PAS to prove otherwise! Further, in the way the family court system works, allegations of abuse have to be “proven”, and the suspicion of abuse can run concurrently with the allegation of PAS, which creates a hostile environment ripe with bias. 

It is highly questionable whether Gardner, himself was qualified to make such an assessment of PAS or any medical diagnosis. Gardner’s views on pedophilia and child sexual abuse are against what is scientifically known about sexual abuse, and what survivors of sexual abuse have reported. Gardner believes, “…that children are naturally sexual and may initiate sexual encounters by “seducing” the adult. Moreover, Gardner (1992b, pp. 670-71) maintains that sex abuse is not necessarily traumatic; the determinant as to whether sexual molestation will be traumatic to the child, is the social attitude toward these encounters.” (Dallam, http://www.leadershipcouncil.org/1/res/dallam/3.html). Not surprising, that those accused of molestation often benefited from Gardner’s views. Gardner once fought to end the mandated reporting of sexual abuse and fought to end immunity for reporters of sexual abuse. Gardner developed the Sex Abuse Legitimacy Scale (SALS, 1987) to test the validity of the reports of sexual abuse from children. THE SAL Scale is heavily based on the PAS theory. For Gardner’s theories to work–the parent has to be purposely influencing the child, sexually frustrated and seeking revenge. PAS is a prerequisite of SALS–and its merit heavily influences the way credibility is established. I find this highly unethical and suspicious–Gardner is developing two theories that not only further his career but whose legitimacy is based on how the two theories (PAS and SALS) support each other! A Florida appellate court rejected SAL for lack of scientific merit; eventually Gardner withdrew it entirely.  

 PAS has been widely criticized, and in the absence of peer review, it seems the “testing” for PAS is being done on families and vulnerable children caught in ideological battles fought in the American family court system. PAS is considered non-diagnostic because it does not explain the cause of its condition nor does it show that any symptoms result from it. The suggestion of abuse has become some sort of symptom of PAS while the cause results from a trauma that has not been adequately explained or adequately diagnosed as anything but as alienation. It is highly suspicious that PAS has no methodology to rule out true accusations of abuse, and related symptoms from alienation.  At best PAS remains a theory, there is no substantial testing, case study or reviews to give it true credibility.

Gardner, now deceased will not be able to provide any further answers. Gardner died by his own hand of violent suicide (http://cincinnatipas.com/dr-richardgardnerautopsy.html). While Gardner has escaped life, the legacy of PAS continues with tragic results. Irene Weiser reports, “Some children placed in the custody of their abusers have committed suicide; others have run away, and countless others have endured the abuse and are permanently traumatized.  In recent years, children placed in custody of their abusers have been coimg forward to tell their own stories and to warn of the harms of PAS.”(http://www.stopfamilyviolence.org/ocean/host.php?folder=63&page=442). In one example from North Carolina, a 14 year old girl was jailed for three days after refusing to visit her father, a judge ruled she was afflicted with PAS. Both the American Bar Association Children’s Legal Rights Journal (2006) and the National Council of Juvenile and Family Court Judges (2006) have found no support for PAS and strongly cautioned against its use. It’s time the courts and psychologists start to listen—children have been suffering for too long. Not only has Gardner proven to be highly unreliable, biased, and to have personal motive to further PAS but the theory has been thoroughly discredited by various legal, psychological and scientific professionals. PAS is harming families—and causing damage to children, many who are traumatized for life or tragically, die. Parental Alienation Syndrome needs to be discontinued until it has been proved to be a scientifically valid syndrome.

    

Maverick expert exerts wide influence on custody cases

 http://www.post-gazette.com/custody/partthree.asp

The Myth of Epidemic False Allegations of Sexual Abuse in Divorce Cases by Merrilyn McDonaldhttp://www.omsys.com/mmcd/courtrev.htm

Richard Gardner and Parental Alienation Syndrome The debate rages on…By Jamie Talan, Newsday.com, July 1, 2003

http://www.ipce.info/library_3/files/pasyndrome.htm

 The Truth About Parental Alienation by Irene Weiser

http://www.stopfamilyviolence.org/ocean/host.php?page=442&subpage=0&T=

The Parental Alienation Syndrome: Is It Scientific? by Stephanie J. Dallam, RN, MSN, FNP

 http://www.leadershipcouncil.org/1/res/dallam/3.html

  

Stop Family Violence: Parental Alienation Articles Page

 http://www.stopfamilyviolence.org/ocean/host.php?folder=63

I am posting these quotes from the Stop Family Violence page, which compiled quotes by Richard Gardner, who founded the theory of Parental Alienation in 1987. This is a must read when considering PAS. http://www.stopfamilyviolence.org/ocean/host.php?folder=63&page=373

CAUTION: some readers, especially survivors of sexual abuse, may find Gardner’s remarks deeply disturbing.  Indeed, we all should. 


On Pedophilia“The child should be able to pity the father for the curse (in our society) of having pedophilic tendencies.  In other times and other places, he would be considered normal.” 
RICHARD A. GARDNER, TRUE AND FALSE ALLEGATIONS OF CHILD SEX ABUSE  592 (1992).

 “He [the pedophile] has also had bad luck with regard to the place and time he was born with regard to social attitudes toward pedophilia.  However, these are not reasons to condemn himself.”
RICHARD A. GARDNER, TRUE AND FALSE ALLEGATIONS OF CHILD SEX ABUSE  593 (1992).

 “I believe that all of us have some pedophilia within us.” 
RICHARD A. GARDNER, SEX ABUSE HYSTERIA: THE SALEM WITCH TRIALS REVISITED 26 (1991).

 “Each time the accusers make an accusation, they are likely to be forming an internal visual image of the sexual encounter.  With each mental replay, the accusers gratify the desire to be engaging in the activities that the perpetrators are involved in in the visual imagery. . Each time we conjure up a visual image of the child being sexually abused, we gratify vicariously our or pedophilic impulses.”
RICHARD A. GARDNER, SEX ABUSE HYSTERIA: THE SALEM WITCH TRIALS REVISITED 25 (1991).

 “[The pedophile] has to be helped to appreciate that pedophilia has been considered the norm by the vast majority of individuals in the history of the world.  He has to be helped to appreciate that, even today, it is a widespread and accepted practice among literally billions of people.” RICHARD A. GARDNER, TRUE AND FALSE ALLEGATIONS OF CHILD SEX ABUSE  593 (1992).

On Pedophilic Impulses of Judges:

 “There is no question that abuse cases are ‘turn ons’ for the wide variety of individuals involved in them, the accuser(s), the prosecutors, the lawyers, the judges, the evaluators, the psychologists, the reporters, the readers of the newspapers, and everyone else involved— except for the falsely accused and the innocent victim . . . Everyone is getting their ‘jollies,’ except the two central figures, who are not only getting little if any sexual pleasure out of the whole thing but whose lives are being destroyed in the process.”  
RICHARD A. GARDNER, SEX ABUSE HYSTERIA: THE SALEM WITCH TRIALS REVISITED 31 (1991)

“Judges are not free from the psychopathological mechanisms. . .  They too may have repressed pedophilic impulses over which there is suppression, repression, and guilt.  Inquiry into the details of the case provides voyeuristic and vicarious gratifications. . .  Incarcerating the alleged perpetrator may serve psychologically to obliterate the judge’s own projected pedophilic impulses.”
RICHARD A. GARDNER, SEX ABUSE HYSTERIA: THE SALEM WITCH TRIALS REVISITED 107 (1991).

On Sexual Abuse As Mother’s Fantasy:

In making allegations of sexual abuse, “the mother’s own suppressed and repressed sexual fantasies are projected onto the child and the father.  By visualizing the father having a sexual experience with the child, the mother is satisfying vicariously her own desires to be a recipient of such overtures and activities.”
RICHARD A. GARDNER, THE PARENTAL ALIENATION SYNDROME 126 (1992).

Gardner notes that the mother might see the father as a danger to the child because of her “own unconscious desires to inflict harm on the baby.”
RICHARD A. GARDNER, THE PARENTAL ALIENATION SYNDROME 128 (1992).

States that some people are more afflicted with pedophilia than others and therefore need to indulge in more frequent imagining of sexual acts with children.  Such people are more likely to “produce false sex abuse charges.” 
RICHARD A. GARDNER, SEX ABUSE HYSTERIA: THE SALEM WITCH TRIALS REVISITED 26 (1991).

On Encouragement of Abuse by Mother:

“In some cases the abuse was actually encouraged (overtly or covertly) by the mother in order to use the child as a substitute object for the father’s sexual gratification.  Such mothers view sexual encounters as odious, and the child is used as a convenient replacement – protecting the mother thereby from exposure to the noxious act.”
RICHARD A. GARDNER, THE PARENTAL ALIENATION SYNDROME AND THE DIFFERENTIATION BETWEEN FABRICATED AND GENUINE CHILD SEX ABUSE  122 (1987).

“Sometimes, mothers who were sexually abused as children may have set up a situation to increase the likelihood that the father will abuse the child.  They may do this as a way of mastering their own abuse trauma.  They may secretly and/or unconsciously hope that the child’s resistance or successful working through will vicariously enable them to do the same for themselves.  Or, they may have responded to the abuse by frigidity or sexual unresponsivity and use the child as a substitute source of satisfaction for their husbands.”
RICHARD A. GARDNER, THE PARENTAL ALIENATION SYNDROME AND THE DIFFERENTIATION BETWEEN FABRICATED AND GENUINE CHILD SEX ABUSE  130 (1987).

 “Sexual abuse of some girls by their fathers is sometimes consciously or unconsciously sanctioned by their mothers.”
RICHARD A. GARDNER, THE PARENTAL ALIENATION SYNDROME AND THE DIFFERENTIATION BETWEEN FABRICATED AND GENUINE CHILD SEX ABUSE  194 (1987).

“Sometimes the mother’s abuse has resulted in sexual inhibition problems, resulting in their viewing sex as disgusting.  They may then facilitate (consciously or unconsciously) their children serving as sexual substitutes in order to protect themselves from involvement in sexual acts.” 
RICHARD A. GARDNER, TRUE AND FALSE ALLEGATIONS OF CHILD SEX ABUSE 185 (1992).

 “[A] mother who is sexually inhibited may view sexual encounters with loathing.  Consciously or unconsciously she facilitates the father’s turning his sexual attentions to her daughter in order to ‘get him off her back’ (or ‘front,’ as the case may be).  In this way, she avoids involving herself in the ‘disgusting’ activities and yet allows ‘the beast’ to gratify his primitive needs and keeps him ‘tamed’ and out of ‘trouble.’” 
RICHARD A. GARDNER, SEX ABUSE HYSTERIA: THE SALEM WITCH TRIALS REVISITED 36 (1991).

On the Vengeful Mother:

 “Although the mothers in these situations may have a variety of motivations for programming their children against their fathers, the most common one relates to the old saying: ‘Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.’” 
RICHARD A. GARDNER, THE PARENTAL ALIENATION SYNDROME AND THE DIFFERENTIATION BETWEEN FABRICATED AND GENUINE CHILD SEX ABUSE  86 (1987).

On Children’s Desire/Fantasy About Sex

Gardner writes that the child’s description of sexual activities is a way of coping with wishes.  It is the child’s way of saying, “It is not I who want him to rape me, it is he who wants to rape me.” 
RICHARD A. GARDNER, TRUE AND FALSE ALLEGATIONS OF CHILD SEX ABUSE 129 (1992).

“By the process of reaction formation one can turn [the child’s sexual fantasies] into unpleasant ones and thereby assuage the guilt that would be experienced if the child were to accept the fact that sexual activities are what she wants.   Instead of saying, “ I would love to have some sexual involvement with my father,” she can say, “I hate having a sexual relationship with my father.” 
RICHARD A. GARDNER, TRUE AND FALSE ALLEGATIONS OF CHILD SEX ABUSE  129 (1992).