I am posting these quotes from the Stop Family Violence page, which compiled quotes by Richard Gardner, who founded the theory of Parental Alienation in 1987. This is a must read when considering PAS. http://www.stopfamilyviolence.org/ocean/host.php?folder=63&page=373

CAUTION: some readers, especially survivors of sexual abuse, may find Gardner’s remarks deeply disturbing.  Indeed, we all should. 


On Pedophilia“The child should be able to pity the father for the curse (in our society) of having pedophilic tendencies.  In other times and other places, he would be considered normal.” 
RICHARD A. GARDNER, TRUE AND FALSE ALLEGATIONS OF CHILD SEX ABUSE  592 (1992).

 “He [the pedophile] has also had bad luck with regard to the place and time he was born with regard to social attitudes toward pedophilia.  However, these are not reasons to condemn himself.”
RICHARD A. GARDNER, TRUE AND FALSE ALLEGATIONS OF CHILD SEX ABUSE  593 (1992).

 “I believe that all of us have some pedophilia within us.” 
RICHARD A. GARDNER, SEX ABUSE HYSTERIA: THE SALEM WITCH TRIALS REVISITED 26 (1991).

 “Each time the accusers make an accusation, they are likely to be forming an internal visual image of the sexual encounter.  With each mental replay, the accusers gratify the desire to be engaging in the activities that the perpetrators are involved in in the visual imagery. . Each time we conjure up a visual image of the child being sexually abused, we gratify vicariously our or pedophilic impulses.”
RICHARD A. GARDNER, SEX ABUSE HYSTERIA: THE SALEM WITCH TRIALS REVISITED 25 (1991).

 “[The pedophile] has to be helped to appreciate that pedophilia has been considered the norm by the vast majority of individuals in the history of the world.  He has to be helped to appreciate that, even today, it is a widespread and accepted practice among literally billions of people.” RICHARD A. GARDNER, TRUE AND FALSE ALLEGATIONS OF CHILD SEX ABUSE  593 (1992).

On Pedophilic Impulses of Judges:

 “There is no question that abuse cases are ‘turn ons’ for the wide variety of individuals involved in them, the accuser(s), the prosecutors, the lawyers, the judges, the evaluators, the psychologists, the reporters, the readers of the newspapers, and everyone else involved— except for the falsely accused and the innocent victim . . . Everyone is getting their ‘jollies,’ except the two central figures, who are not only getting little if any sexual pleasure out of the whole thing but whose lives are being destroyed in the process.”  
RICHARD A. GARDNER, SEX ABUSE HYSTERIA: THE SALEM WITCH TRIALS REVISITED 31 (1991)

“Judges are not free from the psychopathological mechanisms. . .  They too may have repressed pedophilic impulses over which there is suppression, repression, and guilt.  Inquiry into the details of the case provides voyeuristic and vicarious gratifications. . .  Incarcerating the alleged perpetrator may serve psychologically to obliterate the judge’s own projected pedophilic impulses.”
RICHARD A. GARDNER, SEX ABUSE HYSTERIA: THE SALEM WITCH TRIALS REVISITED 107 (1991).

On Sexual Abuse As Mother’s Fantasy:

In making allegations of sexual abuse, “the mother’s own suppressed and repressed sexual fantasies are projected onto the child and the father.  By visualizing the father having a sexual experience with the child, the mother is satisfying vicariously her own desires to be a recipient of such overtures and activities.”
RICHARD A. GARDNER, THE PARENTAL ALIENATION SYNDROME 126 (1992).

Gardner notes that the mother might see the father as a danger to the child because of her “own unconscious desires to inflict harm on the baby.”
RICHARD A. GARDNER, THE PARENTAL ALIENATION SYNDROME 128 (1992).

States that some people are more afflicted with pedophilia than others and therefore need to indulge in more frequent imagining of sexual acts with children.  Such people are more likely to “produce false sex abuse charges.” 
RICHARD A. GARDNER, SEX ABUSE HYSTERIA: THE SALEM WITCH TRIALS REVISITED 26 (1991).

On Encouragement of Abuse by Mother:

“In some cases the abuse was actually encouraged (overtly or covertly) by the mother in order to use the child as a substitute object for the father’s sexual gratification.  Such mothers view sexual encounters as odious, and the child is used as a convenient replacement – protecting the mother thereby from exposure to the noxious act.”
RICHARD A. GARDNER, THE PARENTAL ALIENATION SYNDROME AND THE DIFFERENTIATION BETWEEN FABRICATED AND GENUINE CHILD SEX ABUSE  122 (1987).

“Sometimes, mothers who were sexually abused as children may have set up a situation to increase the likelihood that the father will abuse the child.  They may do this as a way of mastering their own abuse trauma.  They may secretly and/or unconsciously hope that the child’s resistance or successful working through will vicariously enable them to do the same for themselves.  Or, they may have responded to the abuse by frigidity or sexual unresponsivity and use the child as a substitute source of satisfaction for their husbands.”
RICHARD A. GARDNER, THE PARENTAL ALIENATION SYNDROME AND THE DIFFERENTIATION BETWEEN FABRICATED AND GENUINE CHILD SEX ABUSE  130 (1987).

 “Sexual abuse of some girls by their fathers is sometimes consciously or unconsciously sanctioned by their mothers.”
RICHARD A. GARDNER, THE PARENTAL ALIENATION SYNDROME AND THE DIFFERENTIATION BETWEEN FABRICATED AND GENUINE CHILD SEX ABUSE  194 (1987).

“Sometimes the mother’s abuse has resulted in sexual inhibition problems, resulting in their viewing sex as disgusting.  They may then facilitate (consciously or unconsciously) their children serving as sexual substitutes in order to protect themselves from involvement in sexual acts.” 
RICHARD A. GARDNER, TRUE AND FALSE ALLEGATIONS OF CHILD SEX ABUSE 185 (1992).

 “[A] mother who is sexually inhibited may view sexual encounters with loathing.  Consciously or unconsciously she facilitates the father’s turning his sexual attentions to her daughter in order to ‘get him off her back’ (or ‘front,’ as the case may be).  In this way, she avoids involving herself in the ‘disgusting’ activities and yet allows ‘the beast’ to gratify his primitive needs and keeps him ‘tamed’ and out of ‘trouble.’” 
RICHARD A. GARDNER, SEX ABUSE HYSTERIA: THE SALEM WITCH TRIALS REVISITED 36 (1991).

On the Vengeful Mother:

 “Although the mothers in these situations may have a variety of motivations for programming their children against their fathers, the most common one relates to the old saying: ‘Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned.’” 
RICHARD A. GARDNER, THE PARENTAL ALIENATION SYNDROME AND THE DIFFERENTIATION BETWEEN FABRICATED AND GENUINE CHILD SEX ABUSE  86 (1987).

On Children’s Desire/Fantasy About Sex

Gardner writes that the child’s description of sexual activities is a way of coping with wishes.  It is the child’s way of saying, “It is not I who want him to rape me, it is he who wants to rape me.” 
RICHARD A. GARDNER, TRUE AND FALSE ALLEGATIONS OF CHILD SEX ABUSE 129 (1992).

“By the process of reaction formation one can turn [the child’s sexual fantasies] into unpleasant ones and thereby assuage the guilt that would be experienced if the child were to accept the fact that sexual activities are what she wants.   Instead of saying, “ I would love to have some sexual involvement with my father,” she can say, “I hate having a sexual relationship with my father.” 
RICHARD A. GARDNER, TRUE AND FALSE ALLEGATIONS OF CHILD SEX ABUSE  129 (1992).

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